We talked about what
it felt like. She said she it definitely didn't feel like it did when I showed
the kids what it was and when it was used. "That was fun!"
I asked her if she
felt scared. She said no, just mad. I asked why it had happened in the first
place, what started her fury? She said, "I didn't want to do my hair and I
thought if I got really mad I would get away with not doing it." (I love
it when she can be so honest!)
"Remember how
we've talked about doing things the easy way and the hard way? Are you starting
to figure out that a screaming fit and time-ins are the hard way?" she
laughed about that.
"Yeah. It would
be a lot easier to just do my hair."
"You know,
sometimes I think we all have two people inside us, just like The Two
Carolines. I think you have one Loreli, I don't even want to call her the
"bad" Loreli because she is the one who helped you survive losing
your family and got you through the orphanage. But she's also the one who tells
you now, 5 years after being in our family, that we can't be trusted. That no
one loves you. That you don't deserve a family. That you have to keep up your
guard in case we decide to send you back.
And then there's the
other Loreli that we see sometimes. The one with the bright, dancing eyes. The
one who smiles and giggles and loves. That's the one we want to see more of.
Maybe you could give
the two parts names. Can you think of a name for the Loreli who helped you
survive?"
She thought about it
a minute and said, "Hiro."
I thought she meant
"hero" and explained what that word meant.
"No, not hero,
Hiro. I read a story in school that made me think that would be a good name for
a survivor."
"Ok! Cool!
Great name! How about the good, kind-hearted kid that we know is really in
there. What do you want to call her?"
"Jewel!"
:-)
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